I’m leaving for vacation tonight and won’t be back until next Saturday. So, I will not be on as much for the next week. However, I will be tweeting and instagraming (if you care to see some mediocre pictures of the Caribbean)!
What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
i don’t go to family reunions because they always ask me rude questions they’re like my 4th cousin half removed only by marriage and they ask me “why don’t you ever have a boyfriend” and i’m like i don’t fucking know why don’t you have any of your teeth
If you’re not going to comic con clap your hands. *clap* *clap* If you live no where near it clap your hands. *clap* *clap* if your favorite cast is showing and you’re dying ‘cause you’re not going. then go ahead and cry and clap your hands. *clap* *clap*
Honestly can’t wait for the 50 shades movie to normalize the manipulation of lower-level female employees. Can’t wait for the new wave of “consent is sexy” banners on the cover of cosmo. Can’t wait for teen girls to think that a controlling relationship is romantic. Can’t wait for sexualized violence to become increasingly mainstream. And most of all, I can’t wait for BDSM to be labeled a feminist revolution.
Thoughts on the soon to be 50 shades of grey movie?
I am trying my best to have no thoughts on it at the moment.
Right now it is the calm before the storm and I am enjoying not having to talk about the monstrosity.
However I doubt I will be able to live on in blissful ignorance for much longer, because we all know that pretty soon sexualised violence is going to get glamourised all over the media, not to mention that young girls will start wanting their own Christian Greys, which is terrifying because of what a controlling character he is and the fact he clearly knows nothing about consent.
The film is being sold as sexually liberating and empowering to women, which to me personally is pure and utter rubbish, because regardless of an individual’s personal choice about their own sex life, we should not in any way be glamourising and romanticising sexualised violence and relationships in which consent is not respected.
I will be watching with vague horror from the sidelines as this cinematic nightmare unfolds.